Wednesday, February 8, 2012

            Life lesson - mainly for women  This is a long one.

    Girlfriend Marje came to San Clemente the other day to visit her grandchildren.  I decided to stop by on my way home from LA to say hi, have a cup of coffee and then head back down to SD,  Lucky for me I did decide to stop.  Got within 1/2 block from her place :  Engine lights on car started blinking and messages started popping up:  GET OUT OF THE CAR -   STOP  THE ENGINE -  SMOKE IS COMING.  So I did.
      I don’t know much about cars other than filling up with gas,  doing basic maintenance, and turning the key to start it.   This problem was the radiator and I really thought the car was going to blow up.  Luckily I wasn’t on the freeway -  I really would have panicked then.  Thank goodness for AAA.  Came and towed the car into an approved repair shop, and I wound up spending the night with my friend.
       Which is leading me up to  one of my “life lessons” for sharing.   My son had found out about my car predicament and called to get the complete scoop.  After telling him, he started in on me on something we were discussing up in LA - about my needing an ipad.  First, I don’t need an ipad -  I WANT an ipad.  He’s trying to tell me  I need an iphone first and then, eventually, I can get the ipad.  Now I know in time all technology will be iphone/droid types and I will  have to get one then.  But now I want an ipad!!!!
     What I want to get across to you and what I was telling 13 year old Audrey, women have to do what THEY want.   Don’t defer to a man’s opinion just because he is a man and just because he makes you think he is smarter.  And it doesn’t make any difference if one of them is smarter.  If you don’t do what you want, and you listen to him or anyone else, and their way doesn’t work out in the end, YOU are going to be pissed -  at them and at yourself.  Just do what you think is right, and, if in a rare case it isn’t, then accept responsibility and say you made the mistake.  DON'T let yourself regret not taking the opportunity.  I have done it many times in the past, and I WON’T DO IT AGAIN!
   I really feel that I need  to pass this along to young women of today.   Most mother’s want to  tell their daughters these things but because it is your mom that is doing the telling,  girls are apt to disregard what she is saying,  just because she is your mom. 
    If any of you feel that this is good advice, sure would love to hear from you.   Dar

1 comment:

  1. First of all, what kind of a car do you have? Can't imagine all those messages coming from the car. As far as the advice goes ... do what you want, I think that originates and resonates from other very strong women in your life and knowing that no young girl is going to listen to her mother is obviously from personal experience. So what was that thing you were banging on when I saw you in D.C.?